Who do you call your bestest friend? Why is that person a true friend to you? I have met many people in my life and at first I would call them friends but shortly after they would disappear from my life and I really couldn't care less. I guess those people were more of acquaintances than friends which is all right too. On rare occasions I have met people with whom I click with very well, those people are still in my life after 20 plus years. Why do you think that is?
People come and go in your life but only a select few are still around to this day. I think a true friend really enjoys being in your company, they think like you, and they consider you an equal. I also think a bad friend could have these qualities. My interpretation of a bad friend is someone who doesn't challenge you when they think you are wrong, they agree with everything you say but don't stand up for you when you are not around and somebody else is running you down. They don't show up to help when you have a project and they complain about how bad their life is with an expectation for you to help them or just just to hear "oh poor you".
A good friend shows up to help even if you don't need it, and is always asking if you have any projects on the go. They see that you are acting inappropriately and they tell you, even if they think you might be mad. They give good advice when they can but never cross that invisible line that both of you know but don't talk about. They can tell when you are upset by just looking at you and can read a "look" from across the room that no one else sees. With these friends you will have a better laugh with and be able to cry on their shoulder while they pass no judgement.
I think you need to find tune who you call friends as you get older in life. Who is going to bring you up and who is going to pull you down.
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Scott Goerz
