I have some friends, who, don't seem to care what they look like, they are single and want a relationship with someone but don't take the time to clean themselves up and make themselves presentable to the opposite sex. I ask them, "Why don't you just clean yourself up on a daily basis?" The response, "It shouldn't matter how I dress or clean up, they should like me for me."
I do agree that you should be liked for who you are and not how you dress, but there is another aspect I don't think they understand.
When you or I see or meet someone for the first time, our brains formulate an instant first impression of that person. We all do it. This is also a way to protect ourselves from harm say if someone looks particularly dangerous.(how about we just not go near that crazy looking guy.)
If you look unapproachable, people and not going to approach you and therefore not get to know you. A first impression starts before anyone even opens their mouth and starts talking.
I have been walking in the mall and honestly had to hold my breath as I saw these down trodden people coming toward me and I didn't want to breathe in the air around them. How silly and petty is that? They could have been the best people on the planet, but my first impression was that they were nasty. I could have stopped to talk to them, but if my first impression was correct then I'd be stuck talking to dirty nasty people that I wanted to flee from.
Take the time on yourself to be a little more presentable in general, you never know who might be more willing to meet you. Don't you want to give off a good first impression?
Scott Goerz
