Ever plan to go out on a date, and you have meticulously planned out every detail so that the evening would be perfect? You've thought of everything and after picking your date up, you head over to your fancy restaurant of choice and order up your favorite meals. The food comes out steaming hot and looks very good, after the waitress sets it down ,you wait for a second and take a bite. There is one thing you cannot plan for.....Bad food, and it ruins the plans for the rest of the date.
As a guy in my younger years I often had visions of grandeur, due to fantasy TV shows and an over active imagination. I thought of a date in a hot air balloon, or a scenario where I saved a girl from a terrible fate, Indiana Jones style. None of these happened of course (Due to lack of funding, or finding someone in a dire situation.) But as I got older, I realized its not about what we do, its about both of us enjoy doing it and doing it together.
For it to count as a date it has to be something out of the normal routine of things and not something you would normally go do.
Last year my wife and I drove around the countryside with our truck and trailer and picked rocks out of back road ditches, (We were building a pond!) This is definitely not an ideal date, but we had fun with it. Picture this: It's a nice warm day, it's beautiful outside, you are driving slowly down a back road where there is no traffic, you two are both alone, we have the windows down a slight breeze in our faces, and we're pointing to big boulders in farmers fields that you would never be able to lift, saying" Oooooo look at that one." We laughed, and we worked, but we did it together and had fun the whole time.
Tonight is movie date night for the wife and I, we rarely go to the theater and it was my wife's idea. She knows I've been waiting to see "The Black Panther" I was holding out to see it with a friend who is as big a nerd as me, but he cancelled and I didn't bother going. My wife offered it up to me and I took it. Thank goodness I married a good one!
We don't do this very often, we have our normal routines and we are very comfortable with them. When you do the same thing over and over it gets repetitive and you need to change it up once and a while. You need a change of scenery and scenario. If you plan to stay married for the rest of your life you have to shake it up a little, I have 40 - 50 years, and I cannot imagine doing the same thing over and over for that whole time.
This is why its important to have a....
Date Night
Scott Goerz
