What does it take for you to snap? Who can push your emotions from 0 to 100 in just a few seconds? I'm pretty calm almost all the time, and I can take insults and jabs at my personality from anyone, those comments just roll off my shoulder.
One of my sisters commented on my blog from yesterday saying that her kid knows exactly which buttons to push that cause her to lose her mind and and snap in anger. I have had a few girlfriends in the past that could do that to me, they knew exactly what to say and how to say it and it forced me out of my calm demeanor and into a fitful rage almost instantly.
I talked about a line that you don't cross with close friends and family in an older blog. Beyond that line is deeply personal and sentimental emotions that you keep bottled up and hidden from everyone, but someone close to you knows about them. Those types of emotions are your weakest point in your ability to fend off personal attacks. If someone you trust uses your weakest spot to attack you, because they want to hurt you, that will cause you to snap.
We have all been there, we get into a fun argument at first, then it starts to turn for the worst and by the end of it you are looking for anything that could hurt the other person. You bring up something that happened six years ago, or everything bad that has ever happened in your relationship. I call that "ammo". All the stuff that was bad that someone else did and you remember it on purpose so that you can use it later as ammunition to shoot at someone else.
I think that sort of relationship where someone is constantly mentally saving ways to hurt you is incredibly unhealthy and you should get out of it while you can. These types of people have no problem crossing your personal line and using that information as a last resort atomic bomb.
I do think its good to snap every once and a while, when you are completely fed up at a situation that has been going on for way too long and it's impossible to remove yourself from it. Bottling up your emotions all the time doesn't work and you are going to need to release all that built up tension eventually. Make sure that when you do release it that it's used on the right circumstance and not on an event that doesn't deserve it. example: ( someone makes you angry and afterwards you go home and scream at your kids because you are upset from something unrelated to them)
We all have our breaking point but some of us don't know where theirs is...Do you?
Once you know where it is you can stop it before you....
SNAP!!!
Scott Goerz
