Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, lover/friend who goes out of their way to make you happy?
Being good to your significant other is easy when you are happy with them. But is it a one way street? Some couples play a certain roles as they grow together, one person goes out to make the money and the other person manages the finances and maintains the household. Realizing that each job the other person has is just as important as the one you do is key to a happy lifestyle.
Some people might think that their job is more important than their spouse's and act like they are owed something or should be catered to. They expect that they should be pampered and treated like royalty when they are not working.
The worst type of job you can have is the one where it never stops, it is a 24 hr 7 days a week job in which you never get paid and get no recognition for your efforts. This is the stay at home mom/dad job. Mow the lawn, wash the clothes, clean the house, make supper, care for the kids, deal with schools, do finance, get groceries, as well as taking care of your significant other.
Both people in a relationship can work but some people think their job is more important and it can turn into resentment or an argument. On the other hand you can have one person who works while the other person takes them completely for granted, and they do nothing all day but laze around. When the worker gets home they end up doing everything that needs to be done. That sort of action can be fatal to a relationship.
Showing your appreciation for someone else does not have to be a grand gesture, it doesn't need to be hot air balloons and a bed of roses. It can be as simple as making their favorite meal, or doing something that they normally do so they don't have to do it. When's the last time you gave your special someone a hug or kiss for no reason? When's the last time you told them how much you appreciate all the things they have done and still do for you?
My wife made me a sandwich and brought me a beer while I was playing a video game while she cleaned the house. She brought it to me and turned and left to finish what she was doing. I was almost in tears with that action. It showed such a level of compassion and love that I stopped what I was doing and went up to help her. (After my sandwich of course.) And it felt really good to help her, it wasn't a chore, it was me knowing I was taking some of the load off her shoulders so she could enjoy herself sooner, which made me happy. We are constantly doing things to make the other person happy. Tiny little actions that help out each other.
Yes there are times where we take each other for granted, everyone does, but it never goes on long enough to be a problem. We generally enjoy making the other person happy, as should every couple.
We all have to remember that we are not slaves to someone else, we are with that other person for a reason, if it's for all the wrong reasons get out and be with someone for the right reasons. Those reasons are up to you to decide. One individual in a relationship cannot think they are better or more important than the other person. Once you are in a relationship where you are equals, you can then really appreciate each other.
Scott Goerz
