I sometimes enjoy going to the mall, but I do not ever go on a weekend, there is too many people and parking is a pain. It seems to me that the handicapped parking at a particularly large mall seems kind of redundant.
If you have a hard time moving around and you need to be parked as close to the doors as possible what do you think is going to happen once you get inside the mall? More walking! If you have a hard time just making it to the doors you are definitely not going to enjoy yourself once you get inside.
Have you ever noticed that when you do enter a particularly busy mall that people walk like they drive? You could be walking along at a nice pace when suddenly the group in front of you just stop for no reason, and if you were chatting or not paying attention in some way you would run into them. Sometimes a person will cut across your path oblivious that you were even there.
Have you ever been hit by someone and they just keep walking? They come up from behind, towards or across your path, bump into you, and without an apology or anything they just keep going. I think that from now on we should all verbalize and confront these ignorant types of people, otherwise it's going to happen more and more.
Another huge pet peeve of mine is when you are waiting in line somewhere that is fairly common, like a McDonalds or a Tim Hortons, the line is pretty long and you wait patiently for your turn, the person in front of you gets to the counter and has no idea what they are ordering and now they sit and hum and haw about what they are going to get. You have been standing in line for 20 damn minutes buddy!!! You wait until you're ready to order before you make your decision? Forcing the rest of us to wait even longer? Ignorant! What's even worse than that is it's the same scenario but this time it's a woman with four 3 year old children, and she has decided that they can choose for themselves and asks them what they would like when they get to the counter. The children have a 5 second attention span and would rather look at the toys than make a decision, the mother gets angry and says "hurry up there are people waiting" she knows that she is being inconvenient but continues to do it anyway. Like that matters to a 3 year old! Order for them and get out of the way before the rest of us lose our minds.
I can see trying to teach your kids something but there is a time and a place and an incredibly busy store is never the time or place.
There really seems to be a gap between the types of people, where you have the courteous and kind type that are always thinking if they are in the way or being too slow, they apologize if they bump into you and then there are the type of people that take advantage of them and are the complete opposite. What sort of upbringing would cause that sort of selfish mentality?
While it is a good thing to be nice and courteous, there is such thing as being too nice. You can't let other people take advantage of your nice temperament, it's where you are always the one backing down and saying sorry. You do have to stand up for yourself sometimes especially if you know the other person is in the wrong. You cannot fear conflict, if you do you will have an extremely hard time moving forward in life.
Scott Goerz
