Most of us that are in a relationship have days that are up and down, one day you are feeling good and the next day you don't. Some factors that affect your mood could be work, kids, your significant other, and friends drama.
Trying to balance a consistent mood throughout your relationship is hard, and most of the time we tend to blame other issues for our problems. My boss pissed me off today, traffic was stressing, the kids are too noisy, we have no money to pay bills and get groceries.
Have you ever looked inward at how you react to things, how you handle situations, how stubborn you can be, and what specifically is your fault and yours alone. Do you take responsibility for your own actions and what sort of impact it has on your relationship?
After you have found some things that could be harmful to your happiness, what do you do to change it or can you change yourself at this point. Some of us have this notion in our heads that a relationship has to be a certain way, and when it isn't we fight back to make it the way we envisioned.
I am constantly looking inward at my own flaws, and wonder if I am putting undue stress on my wife to conform to my way of thinking. She is her own person and has her own thoughts and feelings and while we agree on many things I think it's healthy to disagree to a certain level. It makes you stop and re-evaluate your own opinion sometimes, and then either realize that you were wrong or confirm that you were correct. That sort of disagreement can actually make you stronger as a couple, as long as there is no animosity in the disagreement.
No one likes to admit when they are wrong, that's why looking in and evaluating your personal opinions and actions is such a great thing, the only person you have to admit them to is yourself, and you can change yourself for the better and no one has to know but you.
Scott Goerz
