Have you ever met someone you enjoy spending time with and eventually decide to enter into a relationship together but when you did, your significant other would get extremely upset if you thought someone else was attractive?
I don't know about you but I don't ever remember agreeing to deny my basic human nature and to stop myself from finding the opposite sex attractive. I did, however, agree to be faithful to the person I chose to be with.
If you are the type of person to try to demand that your spouse, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend or whomever, is not allowed to look, or talk to the opposite sex, then you are a very insecure person and should not be in any sort of relationship.
I had a girlfriend once that would get mad at me if I thought a woman on tv was attractive, and she would get extremely mad at me if she noticed that I was staring too intently. She would also get upset if I looked at any pictures in a magazine, and even comic book characters! I felt as though I had joined into a priesthood when I entered into the relationship with her.
There is, of course, people that cheat out there and if you catch them in the act of trying to get with someone else, (I'm going to give you a tip here) don't get mad at them, get rid of them instead, and save yourself the stress. Yelling and screaming at someone when you have caught them in the act of violating your trust is counter productive and they are not going to change their ways no matter how much you scream at them.
We are all human beings and we all have a basic instinct to find others attractive, we cannot deny that fact and to expect anyone to do so is unrealistic and selfish. However, we can control ourselves to not act on urges and impulses we might feel when we do find others attractive and in a relationship with another person.
You have to trust and respect the person you are with, we are allowed to find others attractive, but there is a limit on how far you take it though, take a quick glance and move on, if you are always staring at the opposite sex when you are with your mate you could start to make them feel inferior.
Scott Goerz
