Why the hell do I hit every red light when I'm driving around? They should be timed so you at least hit a few greens in a row. Why are there so many empty handicapped stalls when I go shopping? Why does my cell have service over here but three feet away it has none? Why does the shower nozzle get clogged? Why, why, why and how come. Everyone complains about something.
We view complaining as a type of negativity, and if you happen to be around someone that does it constantly, you might find that person seems very negative and not fun to be around. Complaining does not always have to be about negativity, some of us see problems in this world that other people don't even notice.
Some people don't care, and in the case of ignorance is bliss, these people are very care free and generally in a good mood, they also don't tend to argue much or stand up for themselves, because they just don't see the point to it.
On the other side of the spectrum, the people who complain, in the case of Misery loves company, these types of people love to debate issues that are plaguing them with others of the same mind, they will stand their ground and argue excessively to get their point across, but will listen to strong grounded reasoning if its presented.
I myself am a complainer, I don't know why or how I became one but it is a fact I am very aware of, on rare occasions I do know how to keep my mouth shut when its appropriate.
You might think that complaining has no use and lives within miserable and grumpy humans, but I assure you this is not the case. When we complain about something it means there is something wrong with the situation or the object being discussed, which becomes an opportunity to remedy the situation or repair the object.
If nobody complained about anything, we would all still be living in the stone ages because nothing would be made better or upgraded, it hurt us to walk on the ground barefoot, so we made things to protect our feet for example. Complaining also relieves stress, and can be useful in a relationship provided it's not done constantly, it allows your partner to be aware of your discomfort in certain situations. We adapt to the situation and move on or move out depending on the severity of the issue.
I look for problems when working on something, and I will be constantly complaining the whole time, but I will be enjoying myself as well because it allows me to see a problem, think about it, and possibly come up with a solution or a workaround to finish the task. Sometimes I also complain about something because it happens to be a funny reality no one else has noticed, and everyone involved gets to have a good laugh.
There is a certain joy, when it comes to complaining.
Scott Goerz
