Everyone always wants you to do the right thing, but the problem is, the right thing is different for each individual person.
A simple example of this is brushing your teeth, do you wet the toothbrush first, or do you just put the toothpaste on, do you brush in circles or up and down? Each person has their own way of doing things and they will claim it's the right way to do it.
I've always hated the phrase "If you're going to do something, do it right the first time." My version of right might be a lot different than yours, and you may get upset with me for doing it my way.
Another phrase that does make sense is " If you want something done right, do it yourself." I would change this phrase to " If you want something done your way, do it yourself." This makes a lot more sense since your way might only be right to you and nobody else.
I remember getting into arguments about how the dishwasher was loaded, I never put pots into the dishwasher, but my girlfriend at the time did and we used to argue about the right and wrong way of loading it, what a stupid thing to argue about, as there is no right or wrong way to load a dishwasher and neither one of us was right or wrong we were just doing things differently based on how we were taught how to do it by our parents or learned how to do it ourselves.
If your "right way" works for you then do it that way and don't worry if anybody else has a problem with it, simply tell them they can do it their way when they are doing it and you are going to to it your way when you are doing it. Do not let your obsessive compulsiveness force someone else to do things the way you do them.
As we grow we start to form certain patterns that we follow for day to day life, some of us don't even realize that we are doing it, and it becomes a daily routine. If someone comes along and tries to break that routine you might become agitated with them, but as soon as you realize they have their own different routine that they are following you may be able to come to some sort of compromise when you want to do something together. Instead of an individual routine you can make a couples routine.
The right way is your way
Scott Goerz
