As we grow up we find friends that become best friends and then we find more friends that we usually hang out with in groups. When we get even older and enter high school some of these friends might still be around but you may add a few more people to your group. I call these (Clicks).
It's funny how your click becomes a sort of exclusive group and if you were to talk to someone in a different click they would be totally fine when talking one on one but when they get together with the rest of their click they become a completely different person. Your click might ask you why you were talking to someone else and then chastise you because they think that person is a loser.
I found that this is where a lot of high school drama comes from, not from individual people but from inside different clicks. Groups of guys or girls or both start vicious rumors, get in fights, vandalize things, and bully people that don't have their own click or of a weaker one. Alone they are weak which is why they appear nicer, but together they are strong and and can become mean.
When I was in school we had basic clicks, the headbanger click, the rich kid preppy click, the nerd click. Each style listened to their own types of music, wore a certain style of clothes, and drove a certain type of vehicle. These clicks never got together and hung out with each other because they didn't "Click". It made some of being in high school very difficult for others who weren't in a click.
You would think that this sort of thing would stop when you graduated, but it doesn't, it flows right into your workplace where you find a new click and carry on with all the drama from high school. I think this is why you hear about some crazy person with a gun rampaging through their school or workplace.
If you were one of these people who have been picked on your entire life, bullied, beat up, and made the brunt of every joke since you were a child, I think it might drive someone to eventually lose their mind and decide to kill every person they can.
Having a group of friends is totally fine and healthy but using that group to belittle someone else is not. Bring a stranger in once and a while, if you are an influence in your group then use it for something positive. Maybe the world would be a better place.
Scott Goerz
