Do you think we use the word love too loosely? I think we do, and when someone tells me "it was love at first sight." I scoff. I believe you can be infatuated with someone at first sight, lust after someone at first sight, but love? How can you claim to love someone when you don't know them? Everyone puts on their best face, their nicest person when meeting other people for the first time. You don't know who that person really is until you have spent quite a bit of time getting to know them, their past, how they were raised, their values. I agree with this link: https://www.marriage.com/advice/love/the-true-meaning-of-love-in-a-relationship/
Despite the phrase “it was love at first
sight”, love is not something we feel right away. That strong feeling
of attraction, like a magnet pulling you towards that person you’ve just
met? That’s infatuation and sexual chemistry. Mother nature gives us a
big dose of infatuation in order to get us together initially. Love
does include sexual chemistry but it differs because it is an emotion
that takes time to build. Lust can appear in an instant; love evolves
over a period of time as you get to know the other person inside and
out.
If you can't stand to be away from the person you claim you love and it drives you crazy not knowing where they are or what they are doing, that is not love, its a crazy, dangerous, jealousy infused possessive relationship and you should probably get professional psychological help.
My wife can go and do whatever she wants, and I encourage her to do so. A trip to the states with your sister for a week? Have fun honey, make sure you bring back some good cheese and wine. Why? Because I love and trust her completely, and I want her to be as happy as possible and enjoy life.
That's my thoughts for today hope you enjoyed.
